Submitted to the facebook page by Joi Weaver:
Although this was recorded 18 years ago, I and my fellow LEOs face this kind of behavior more frequently than you’d like to think. Don’t believe me? Try this story on for size…
Last year, I stopped a soccer mom (mini-van and all) for speeding. She commenced to throw the biggest fit I’ve ever seen with my own two eyes. Not only did she refuse to sign the ticket, she ended up resisting when I directed her back to her vehicle (after she jumped out and began yelling like a crazy person).
Once that line is crossed, there is no going back. This was a busy morning on a fairly busy street. I couldn’t have her running out into traffic and getting killed. I told her to get back in her car and she refused (keep in mind, my direction to return her to her vehicle was for both her safety and mine). I tried to gently grab her arm and escort her back to her van. She ripped her arm away from me (I think at one point I heard the *ding ding* of the bell…) and the fight was on.
All I was trying to do was to protect her (from herself), so I didn’t want to do any of those swell moves we learn during defensive tactics. I didn’t want to pepper spray her or dump her on the ground. Not only would it look like I’m kicking the shit out of this poor woman (unfortunately, we always have to keep other’s perspectives in mind, now, don’t we?), but her eight year old son was in the damn van.
Consequently, I end up fighting with this 40 something soccer mom. She eventually jumped back in the van and clutched her kid to her chest. She was in full “I’m losing my mind” mode. I wasn’t about to rip her son out of her arms and make a bad situation worse. At no point did I feel she was a threat to my safety (other than darting out into traffic and having to chase her) and I didn’t think she was going to hurt her son. Some times people just go, well, bat-shit crazy. Apparently, it was her turn.
I talked her out of the van and she ended up going to jail for resisting arrest. One of the cool things about this story is that other officers did an area canvass and every last witness said the lady just lost her mind and started screaming at me. I was very glad I didn’t dump her or otherwise put any legit hurt on her. It’s not always necessary to resolve a situation. If it hadn’t been me that’d set her off, it was going to be the bank teller or the grocery clerk or the soccer coach. Someone was going to get an earful off of this lady at some point during her day. Unfortunately for her, she chose me and got a free trip to jail for it.
To her credit, she came in the next day and apologized for her behavior. She said she had never acted like that before and she was ashamed. I’ve not dealt with her since. Some days just suck, huh?
Could I legally have used more force on her than I did? Damn straight. Could the Statie in the video handled his situation a little differently and have been justified? More than likely. Point is, we don’t always have to be knuckle-dragging Neanderthals to get the job done. I applaud his ability to stay calm in the face of abject idiocy.
Me? I don’t have the patience and would’ve ended up saying something smartass to the guy….’course then I would blog about it, so, you know…win/win.