Influence: Are You Giving or Getting?


Jim Rohn

There is a famous Jim Rohn quote that I’ve taken to heart over the last 18 months or so:

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

When I first heard the quote, it resonated with me. By the time I’d heard it for the twentieth, I figured perhaps God has knocking on my head with some tenacity.

That was when I culled my Facebook friends.

I didn’t care if we’d known one another since elementary school, if we work(ed) together, or if we were family. If all you posted was negative updates or, God help you, anti-police rhetoric, I cut the cord with a sense of urgency and pride.

It was amazing what happened in my life.

I started being less of an asshole. 


I became more positive. I was more productive. When things didn’t go my way, I was much less likely to react from a defensive point of view. Instead, I took the opportunity to analyze where I had gone wrong and what I could do to improve my situation.

I started following folks on-line that were offering positive, uplifting, productive pieces of information that I could inject into my personal, professional, and business life.

Perhaps a quote from a guy only recently deceased doesn’t have the kind of staying power or longevity you’re looking for. How’s this one grab you?

“Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.”

That, my friends, is from the book of Proverbs (22:24-25, specifically). That wisdom stand the test of time?

Now, I’m not gonna go on a jag about how your soul needs saving (even if it does). I also don’t particularly care what your proclivities regarding “religion” are. I would suggest the wisdom found in the Bible is, at minimum, just that: Wisdom. It would behoove us to pay attention to what the best-selling book of all time has to say.

This post isn’t about that, though. It’s about guarding your space. It’s about to whom you grant access into your life.

When you go to work are you surrounded by grousers, grumblers, and grumps? Is it affecting your attitude? Are you the grousing grumpy grumbler?

Take a look around you. Maybe it’s the company you’ve been keeping.



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3 thoughts on “Influence: Are You Giving or Getting?

  1. You’ve done it again, MotorCop. Excellent – got me to thinking! Appropriate for officers, moms of little kids, teenagers, politicians, car salesmen, hairdressers and grocery store clerks – we are who we spend time with!

  2. I did this myself a few months ago and my life has been MUCH BETTER for it. Simply cutting all of the negativity and drama out of my life that was being brought into it, even though it had nothing to do with me and there was nothing I could do about it, made a huge difference.

    I sleep better, I eat better, and I’m a much more cheerful and productive person.

    Definitely something I’d recommend doing.

  3. You hit the nail on the head with this one. This is exactly what I needed to ‘hear’ today. My coworkers have been complaining so much that it’s starting to rub off on me and I love my job. I can’t change who I spend time with at woke but I can change how much time I spend with God and that will change me. Thank you MC for the reminder.

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