I’m not even sure that “blameshifting” is a real pysch term, but you get the point…and if you don’t, you will.
I stopped a lady a few weeks ago for failing to yield to a pedestrian in a crosswalk. This violation is near the top of my “Wow, I’m an idiot driver” list. At any rate, the pretty lights went on, the loud siren sounded and I got to meet a new fan.
MC: Hiya. Do you know why I stopped you?
BS (sadly, it stands for BlameShifter…but I think we’ll agree the other obvious term applies as well): No.
MC: Ah, well, you didn’t stop for the ped in the crosswalk.
BS: I didn’t see him.
MC: I would assume that to be true. Unfortunately, I did. And then I saw you almost hit him. With your big ass car. You know, the one that outweighs a pedestrian, even a huge one, by about ten times.
I left the slightly bewildered driver sitting in her car while I wrote out the citation. When I returned to her vehicle she was a bit, shall we say, incensed.
BS: How come the fifty times no one stopped for me, no one got a ticket?